Whenever there is a comment about dressing of a
particular sex, I see a huge reaction from the English media and on the social
media. While there is no debate on grooming a male child in a more civilized
manner, until that is done, one needs to exercise caution about these dressing
debates.
Having been a product of the Bharath (rural India)
having done my schooling at the village school and when I moved in to a large
city to do my graduation in late seventies, was overawed by the way a women dressed.
Here I need to say was when it was traditional south Indian dressing at my
village to jeans n Salwars in the city. My upbringing might have stopped me
from ogling at a girl n her dressing, but was indeed tempted to keep looking.
Why I say all this is to bring forth a point that there is a huge difference in
perception of a product of India and Bharath.
Typically a person coming from the Bharath is craving
to look at well dressed women, this situation worsens if the person is under
educated in terms of morals n behavior. Added to this is the typical deprecated
society that we live in. When a person from India (Urban part) encounters these
oglers, naturally they get disgusted and might react accordingly. Here the
product of Bharath who is generally brought up in an atmosphere where males are
dominant and considers women as 'maal' n 'cheeze', cannot take the insult
lightly. Result can be as bad a situation as encountered by the 23 year old
Gang Rape victim at Delhi.
While we might denounce any person, be it a MLA,
Minister or a IPS officer, who speaks about the way women dresses, it is
important to understand why they say, what they say. In a small town India
‘skirt’ can be a very provocative dress, particularly in the context of movies
that show a skirt clad heroines looking voluptuous and making an
impression on the young and old alike.
It is important that an effort is made to bring in the
values both at home n in education. It is important even Khaps make an effort
to insist that a woman should be respected by all as a society. It is also
important that our entertainment channels too, stop showing serials which show
one woman conniving against the other, which only makes the society believe
there is no one to defend a woman.
Coming to the men, we need to find ways to help him in
terms of his grooming n upbringing. Make him understand that every woman
walking on the street is not a prostitute, every man walking along with a woman
is not her boy friend or lover. A woman walking on the street should not be
seen as a prey but someone who needs to be protected.
When we see a officer from defense services holds a
door open for a lady, treats her with kid gloves, it is something what he has
been taught as part of his grooming. Similar respect needs to be taught as part
of our schooling to every boy more so in ‘bharath’, this will certainly help
bring the change in the future.
In the meanwhile let us fight to ensure there is a
deterrent in terms of how a rapist is punished and how the cops treat a victim
with more compassion. At this point it might be worthwhile having CCTV camera
observation of all Police Stations on 24/7 basis, to keep a check on what is
happening at the stations in terms of complaint registration and treatment of
the accused.